Joined: Fri Jan 12 2007, 04:38am
Location: Florida
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I have been with the same woman for 5 years now - but this question has been burning in my brain ever since :
What the hell is it with the bazillion different ways that any given woman wants her pussy licked!?
I hate to admit the fact that through college and after my first divorce... I kinda went ape shit on the scene and honed my skills honorably... was praised, won awards etc... and now it seems everything I had learned has gone to waist, because every one of you has 'different tastes' when it comes to givin head.
For a guy - it's either good or bad - most often good. But What the hell is it that some want it sucked, some want it licked, some want fingers, some don't... WTF!
I like it ruff, I like to be tied up.. .....slapped across the tits with a belt..lol not TOO hard tho.
when masterbating.... ......since i was child I have done it with running water... sliding down where my ass is on the drain and my legs are up the wall where the spicket is...
it feels like oral sex if you start out with drizzleing warm water and gradually increase the flow and sometimes I change the tempature from cold to real warm to tepid...I find cooler water makes awareness highten...the hot and cold does something wonderful to me...it feels so natural and frees your hands to get the previously discussed current fron nipple to clit. I flex and release my internal muscles for maximum effect. ....the clitorial orgasm is like foreplay for a vaginal one...I can't seem to get off on just intercorse. the clitorial orgasm causes the inside to become hyper sensitive when I lock down and I get like tremmors and clenching within..from the opening to the end as I am entered I can pop em off from every inch I recieve starting at the opening I get off a little further..cum again, further...cum again. and changing positions will allow for more with the change in pressured area.
my adoration for hot and cold is why I bring a cup of hot coffee and some ice water to my lover when I'm ready to worship his cock...or giving head in simpler terms. It's worship for me, ........ I have to love them, and know they are willing to please me to express my graditude, and adoration to it's highest possible capabilities.
when a guy is hard and you drink hot coffee they melt when you put your hot mouth around it.. when your temp is normal, drink of water and a lil' piece of ice swirled around the head, the ice must stay moving and the hot and cold temp it creates in your mouth will make you very special to him as well. head tapes are the key to the universe... record songs with a good beat..... slow at first of course (side 2 of abbey road is best for me) then nice steady sucking to the beat keeps you on the same rhythem though out the tune.
I've always been very aggressive in bed. ....I never thought being tied up would be my cup of tea.
but ...it's actually very kewl to not have responsibility for a minute... .....you don't have guilt......you were TIED UP! ha ha! not your fault! it also impressess me when someone can make me cum with out my help. .....usually I fuck back! .....I figure, if I can't do anything else....I just try to GET UP with a guy on top of me!
I had an intresting time with my ex like 2 years ago.
He would tie me up...forcefully. *smiles*
and slap my mons pubis (the triangle part of your pussy at the top) with a fucking belt! ....at first...I was fucking stunned! no one ever hit me before, anywhere! ..... but then, sensation started spreading through there, like it woke my pussy up or something....same with inner thighs, ...................same with tits. usually I my first reaction would be pissed off mad if you slap my tits with a belt. ...whoo!
I was not pissed! I was impressed!
obviously there is a certain level of momentum there... ......you don't slap the fucking shit out of someone, there's a line of course, where "just right" exists.....but it does make a big "slap" sound woth a leather belt.
what a fucking turn on dude!
the darkest chapter in my sexual diary was when he raped me. .....he came in through the window, and I mean we wrestled balls to the wall for an hour! ...we're both covered in sweat! he finally got me tied down, went down, and seriously grudge fucked my brains out.
Goady wrote ... For a guy - it's either good or bad - most often good. But What the hell is it that some want it sucked, some want it licked, some want fingers, some don't... WTF!
Just wanted to rant - insiteis helpfull
For starters, the idea that a BJ can only be either "good" or "bad" is just flat out wrong. It baffles me to hear that from someone who evidently has a fair amount of experience. Of the many, many hummers I've had over the years, there've been HUGE differences in technique, enthusiasm, rhythm, and result. I can think of a few truly bad ones where I've actually stopped the girl, but between all the good ones the differences can be like night and day.
As for women, if you're looking for a "one trick fits all" kinda tongue move, your mistake is a fundamental one. Women are by nature complex, and I highly doubt you'll find two women who enjoy exactly the same things in bed. Maybe close, but never exact.
But in any case, I'd say you're missing the point. Being a great lover isn't about having x amount of pre-determined, well honed tricks, it's about being willing and happy to learn your partner's likes and dislikes and adjusting accordingly. It's not difficult to figure out what feels good for a woman. If she's into it, you'll know it! And if you don't know it, she's not that into it. Just keep trying, or if all else fails, ask!
I'd say a decent comparison is fast cars. No matter how good a driver is, if he gets out of an Evo and gets into a Supra, he's going to have to adapt his driving style to suit the new vehicle.
Edited Mon Feb 09 2009, 06:35pm
Friday night I had an unbelievable session with "J" (I kid you not -- pretty much every time we've hooked up (10+ now I guess) it's been HOURS of fun. No quckies yet. 2, 3 , and Friday night almost 4 hours! Not straight fucking the whole time, but probably half of that. For one, she is trying everything she can to get me to cum while fucking and not stroking me off or sucking me off.
Anyway, she was riding me cowgirl and I slapped her ass fairly hard, and then her other cheek. She bent down and bit my nipple hard and whispered "Be as rough as you want to". WOW!!!! I was stunned... crazy girl. My first thought, was that I wanted to slap her titties fairly hard haha but I thought that might be too weird for her so I didn't do shit. Just slapped her ass some more. Don't think I'm up for choking, slapping, degrading... yet. Cool that she's offered it though.
Joined: Fri Jan 12 2007, 04:38am
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Intreaged to hear the rest of that story - but back to the original question - There is good Head and Bad Head no? And By the way - what are you doin this weekend Suze?
For example, my lady likes to be treated badly in bed and I went Si's route of listening to your partner and doing things they're into so one day I started choking her and spitting in her face while I was fucking her ass.
Afterwards she said, "the best part about having sex with you is that you like to do bad things to me while we're fucking".
Now, I wouldn't say I like doing that stuff, but if her thinking I like it makes her enjoy it more so be it. I mean, if some chick started spitting on me and choking me I think I'd pick her up and toss her out the door, but hey... Different strokes, right?
Anyway, you got yourself one of those sick fucks Kyle. Next time you're going at it give her a good closed fist punch in the eye while muttering "dirty slut" under your breath, see how she reacts, and take it from there.
Also, if you really want to bust a nut while fucking this chick just think of men.
Edited Tue Feb 10 2009, 03:13pm
DON'T CHOKE HER! LOL! ......the intensity of the slap (across her tits/top of her pussy) should be JUST enough to cause sensation chills... ......You can use your hand to pop her on the puss...
for some reason...a belt is best for boobs. ....and it's better to slap as soft as you can at first, she'll tell you harder....if she wants it harder. ....the idea is not to HURT.
just to WAKE UP nerve endings.
.....and ass slapping, can be fairly hard, but, if you rub it, softly after the slap... ....it just feels good like that.
also, the best place to slap her ass, if she's bent over.. .....is right across the bottom, an inch above where ass meets leg
.....so your slapping her ass and vaguely slapping her pussy from behind.....at the same time.
Intreaged to hear the rest of that story - but back to the original question - There is good Head and Bad Head no? And By the way - what are you doin this weekend Suze?
Yes of corse there's good and bad head! ....you can waste alot of time on "bad head" in fact you could give "bad head" all day long and ....she'll never get off.
*I* can't tell you what she likes, I'd have to ask her.... ......I can tell you variations of experiances I've had with women compared to what *I* personally like... ........were enough to drop my jaw.
OK... ....hold on to yourself....if you want.
I like to have my clit sucked soft at first then harder..... ....as it gets harder. I don't need fingers in my pussy or tongues.
....the pressure of your chin on the opening of my vagina is GREAT! ..for the time being.
...when I have a clitorial orgasm. the instant you stick your dick inside me, I cum like 25 motherfuckers.
.......OK
the 1st girl I was with, I thought "I'll do the same thing I like, this will be EZ"
NO.
......this girl wanted 1-2-3-4, my whole fucking hand (gross) up her snatch while I was sucking her clit.
if you did that to me... ...I would hate every second of it...
and there's no way, I'd want, or could fit a whole hand in there...
...it would CERTAINLY break my concentration...make me uneasy and I would not get off.
FOR HER... ....doing what I like, was NOT gonna get HER off.
and so it goes... ....every single one of us has a different combination.
I've been with 2 guys in my life, that could crack my combination in 5 minutes... ......the rest, just wasted their time.
understand?
communication IS what makes it good sex.
you can't bring baggage, from other women with you when you are with a new lover.
FORGET everything you ever found that worked on one... ....it WILL NOT work on another.
if it does.. .....it's a major coincidence.
Lessee...
....Tomorrow, I'm going to see thrash play and pick up one of my speed freaks at the Jacksonville airport coming from California... ....This weekend, about 10 speed freaks are flying in to see me.
.....we try to get together once a year.....if we can....
I went to san francisco in 2007 and met about 30 people from my recovery board....
.....last year, Kell and Princefuckin'A came to visit me...
.....HOPEFULLY this year, Thrash will come have lunch with us on sat at my moms house.
I'm honestly, unabashedly answering the questions, openly, to the best of my ability. .....because goady asked for opinions...
I'm more than happy to give mine.
There is no "right"or "wrong" answers to this question...
...if you don't like the answers I have, ask another girl! ...good luck finding a girl who will answer this candidly.... .....*looks around* .......good luck finding one that will answer at ALL.
asshole!
......I bear my soul and tell you the fucking truth and you wanna give me some grief about it?
.....I'm sure you MEN will figure it out on your own..
lol! wtf??
I have ADD .....I musta missed the "choke me" part.
sue me.
.....Goady~
I hope this helped.
Edited Tue Feb 10 2009, 05:34pm
