Do you do it for your pleasure or are you doing it for his? If you aren't so awfully fond of performing oral sex that it gets your rocks off, then stop doing it. It's more for his pleasure, even if you LOVE to please. If it gets you off, keep on doing it. But he doesn't like reciprocating, at least he's honest with you and himself. Because then he'd start feeling forced to do it and that would just be sucky. I have phases. There are times I enjoy it so much I get off before he does. There are other times, I couldn't be bothered. And when I'm giving and not getting, during those times, I never think of not getting because I WANT to be there and do that. His orgasm is important to me, but at those times, it's not his orgasm that I'm wanting. It's just doing that. I actually get upset that he gets off. Because that means I have to stop.
You'll find that when you end the feelings of obligation, then it gets more free and you can sit back and enjoy it when you do it. He might not like it much in the beginning because he's not getting it all the time, but he'll deal. And he might start showing his "appreciation" more often. But if you feel obligated to do something like that and he's not putting you in a position of degradation because of your not doing it, then it is something for you to deal with from your past. That could also be where some of your resentment is coming from. You'll do alright lady!
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i think that is exactly what it is... a resentment from my past. because Andy has never done or said anything to make me feel like his slave or anything, he is quite the opposite.
and i think when i wrote that last post i was in a crappy mood, because i DO like giving him oral sex...
i was just pissy.
well, our relationship is moving along nicely..
i have just figured out what people mean when they say
"Our relationship has it's ups and downs, but for the most part its really good"
cuz we both feel secure together, and we are certain about our future.
You'll do alright lady!