Sesk...I don't know what to say. What she did was wrong and it sucks so much when the person you love does the "jab and twist." It happened to me a few months ago and yeah, anger = catharsis
Sesk, it's your life and your decisions. I'm one of the people that will give someone a second chance if they are contrite and genuinely sorry. And I hope she is. And you know your situation better than the rest of us. You have to do what makes it right in your heart.
hey, after katie convinced me she was sorry for fucking my best friend we got back together...we been together for a year and shes off in college in colorado right now.
point is, if she's sorry and you are dead certain she is, then get back with her. if there's any doubt left, however, it will carry on into your relationship. i know, i still doubt my girl sometimes. but thats the price i pay. in the end you need to trust her, but if you know she wont do it again then why not?
you only live once. in my opinion, it's better to regret the things you've done than the things you didn't.
im probably in a better spot tho...she doesnt get much physical enjoyment from sex, she's one of the 'emotional attachment' types.
i hate to sound cruel, but i put her through the ringer so well that i seriously doubt she'll do it again. i made sure she knew how it felt; i put her through the same thing. worst two weeks of her life...
wasn't random. was her ex-boyfriend. she still had feelings for him apparently. she thought he was this nice perfect guy
thing is, she didnt realize it at the time (or when she was with him ) but he had a few more girls he was courting on the side.
after he used her and threw her away (and i made her feel suitably bad for doing it in the first place, as was my right) i made sure she knew about what kind of person he is. now i haven't seen him in 3 months (told him i'd put him in a coma if i saw him after graduation) and she hates his guts.
the kind of bad experience she had right after her first time, tho, kinda jaded her to any kind of sex for a while after we got back together. but it's cool now, and i feel relatively confident that she won't do it again. mission accomplished ^_^
You can only do what your heart allows you to do. I'm glad for your sake it isn't telling you to go on a rampage where you try to break the hearts of other women as some of the people here have joked about or suggested. In the long run, the rampages people go on for revenge only ends up screwing them up more emotionally than the person that originally caused their pain. It is a truely admirable yet rare quality to be able to forgive someone as you have. It will be hard on you, because you aren't going to trust her for a while. But, you would never know if it was worth keeping her unless you gave it a chance.
) but he had a few more girls he was courting on the side.