No action, after the firm party. I was like "hey the night's still young.. let's do something - go back to my place and watch sleepaway camp". She couldn't - she had to wake up at the ass crack of dawn that Saturday morning to work. Oh well, no sweat.
But I do have some interesting updates!!! That "J" chick, I've been talking with some, and trying to get her to come to Ice Cube tomorrow night. Anyway somehow I brought up the fact that I was pissed I wasn't able to go this show on Thursday night because I waited too long and tickets were sold out. Well she had a will-call ticket, and she transferred that shit over to my name cause she couldn't go to the concert. Haha awesome! This is the girl who bought me drinks at the show I went to about a month ago (Ghostland Observatory). Now I got a free concert ticket from her too. Did I mention she's a MILF?
IT GETS EVEN BETTER. At the show on Thursday night I was chillin, tapping to the beats of the Black Kids and Ting-Tings and this girl comes up to me and starts talking. I say hey I'm Kyle what's your name, and have a great conversation with her. I'll call her "J2". Anyway she fucking bought me a couple of beers too!!! AWESOME. At one point she was like "I'm cold - are you?" and I wasn't, but without hesitation I wrap my arm around her and pull her close to me. She nestles her neck on my chest and I rub her back with my fingers. It was awesome... just to DO IT and not WORRY about doing it/not doing it. We were touchy/feely/rubby throughout the other band. With my balls for all the world to see I asked her out on the spot. IN PERSON. I've never really done that before. Usually it's via craigslist/e-mail/myspace/cyber communication. I asked her for her number too IN PERSON. Long story short, she's going to Ice Cube with me tomorrow night.
We'll see if I can continue DOING and not WORRYING about doing/not doing.
Here are a few pics of me and "e" from the holiday party. Open bar meant Crown and Coke's on the house all night!
I picked up J2 last night at her place, and we drove downtown. Went to a couple of bars before the Ice Cube show -- the guy who was opening "Trick Trick" has said some anti-gay/homophobic shit so it pissed off a lot of people, including the owners of the club, Mohawk, so we decided to get our drink on instead of watching that douche rap about hating fags. This J2 chick knows a LOT about beer, being from Milwaukee and all haha. I had so many different beers I don't remenber... but I know I had at least Guinness (first time trying it), Hefeinwezen (sp?), Ace Pear Cider(? i think) and a bunch of others. I bought about half she bought the other. It pretty much reinforced the fact in my mind that I hate beer. Most of it is too bitter. I much prefer liquor.
Anyway so we head to the show after we had about 4 beers in us and get some more booze. Listen to the opening act, get more booze (she finished a 32oz of Miller in like 15 minutes - this chick DRINKS). Anyway we start hugging and I put my hands on her back and rub down to her ass crack, she rubs my back with her fingernails. The show was amazing.
So she's obviously fallen head over heels for me or something. I was talking about traveling and she said she wants to go (little scary if you ask me), she kept saying "we" when talking about stuff SHE wants to do haha, and the best part - she invited me to her house Wednesday for a home-cooked Italian meal. She has no tv. So the only thing to do is listen to music, drink, eat and FUUUCK.
My jaw hurts today. I walked her to her door at the end of the night and gave her a kiss, and she got aggressive and the kiss ended up being like 5 minutes outside her door... I pretty much suck at kissing due to lack of experience, but it was cool nontheless.
On the one hand I am seriously excited at the pussy prospect. On the other hand I am a little aprehensive with this chick "clinging" so early... she's cool but I don't see myself in a relationship with her. Who knows though.
Definitely get some practice on the kissing front. It will serve you VERY well. There's an art to it, and it's not all just about tongue and sucking face. And all the good stuff doesn't have to be mushy romantic either. However, kiss well and you can get a chick who was kinda "meh" on you in the first place to be dying to get your pants off.
Hahaha no I'm not Jewish but my co-workers always make fun of me/joke if I've converted. I was tired of suits so wanted to try something different.
Lusive - any more tips? There was just a very slight tongue touching - I know not to fuck her throat with my tongue. Open mouth kissing is what I need help with. It just feels like I'm doing some wrong... so you both have your mouths open, she starts like closing hers, do I close mine at the same time??
Back in 2004 when I was very close to getting some with that girl Erin (we dated 2 months) she told me that I kiss weird -- I don't "finish" the kiss. What the hell does she mean?
You open and close your mouth, its not just ALL open, ALL closed. You bite (gently) you suck (gently) and lick her lips (except not like a dog lapping for water) its all obvious. Kiss her like you want to be kissed.
Am I the only one where kissing came naturally? I've never needed directions. Sex on the other hand........Jesus, let me just tell you that two virgins make for horrible sex.
Edited Tue Dec 16 2008, 03:11am
Some people are just bad kissers, I just innately knew how to do it well. You probably aren't that bad but either way you'll probably get away with your kissing inexperience if the girl has her heart set on jumping your bones. I just hope for you that you'll quickly adapt to having sex, or else you'll probably have some embarassing experiences. Now, when do you plan to tell the chick that it's your first time? Before, during, or after sex? I think the most strategic move would be during. If you do it before than it might be too much pressure for her or it might weird her out (or she might be dying to devirginize you). If you do it after then she'll just think you were a bad lay (assuming that like most people your first time won't be your best) or that you are deceptive and sneaky for not telling her.
Kissing is like a good conversation. There should be give and take on both sides. Both a mixture of opening and closing, both tongues darting in and out with each other. Sometimes, you can get a girl to take control if she is really wanting to kiss you, by holding back JUST a hair away from her mouth, let your lips be open, it's like a teasing thing. Let your slightly parted lips brush against hers. It tells her that you want to do this, but you want to build the anticipation, which in turns builds passion. You can't have one kiss go on the whole time. A good way of finishing a kiss is to pull back a little both, tongue and your lips, all while closing them. Leave your face close to her though. Look at her, then you can start over with small kisses (not open mouth ones) and start back in with the more passionate kisses.
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Everything Lusive said is good, but for fucks sake don't think about it too much while your doing it. Go with whatever feels good. There's not really a wrong way to do it unless you gag her or something.
Pay attention to how she kisses you to figure out what she likes.
