Seriously baggie, don't worry too much about what us assholes say. Just enjoy the pussy.
Yeah, agreed. At this point, advice is gonna be a lot less useful than experimenting. And it seems like you have a couple chicks lined up who are all about the experimenting. Go hog wild. Tear that shit up. Make some mistakes, learn some shit, just have fun with it. And don't even worry about coming. Think about it - isn't your "problem" better than coming in like 12 seconds?
I'm proud of you, son.
But still, wrap that shit up. Ain't you ever seen that one movie "Kids"?
Today at the office I got a verbal beat-down by my boss and co-worker. I told them about barebacking and they were fucking pissed, and scared me into absolute submission. My boss told me a couple of weeks ago I better watch out because pussy makes dude's do stupid shit. Honestly, I didn't even think about the STD factor when she took the rubber off and we barebacked. Not nutting inside her was definitely on my mind, but my boss says pre-cum can actually get a chick pregnant too.
Anyway I was literally trembling after both of them karate- chopped me a new asshole with words. So I decided I HAD to have a conversation about this with her, TO-FUCKING-DAY.
So I asked her what she as doing for lunch, but she had a meeting. So I texted "Got some questions on my mind. I don't think it's smart to have unprotected sex w/out knowing more about each other. Kinda late in the game, but it wasn't really on my mind before. You have nothing to worry about, but I want to make sure I don't either."
Anyway I called her a bit ago and we had an adult discussion on the topic. I started it off telling her, "I meant it when I said you have nothing to worry about from me. You're the first girl I've had sex with." Yes, she now knows.
She basically was as chill and as matter-of-fact as I was when I told her and said "Oh, okay." She understood then why I am worried about the whole STD thing (and potential pregnancy issues) and immediately said that if we are going to continue to have sex, she'll go to the doctor and get tested for EVERYTHING. She says she has gotten tested in the past for the general things that the doctor can test you for, and she came out clean then and she takes Guardasil so there's no worry of HPV. (warts I guess) She also said she started her period two days ago so no worries about a fucking kiddo from any pre-cum.
Thursday night she's going to cook me dinner, and we'll see what happens - she may still be on her period.
Mello - in the past haven't you talked about period sex extensively? I think it was in my "classic" thread about the blanket I loaned the girl and she bled all over. Ew. Menstruation makes my stomach churn and burn.
wrote ... Not nutting inside her was definitely on my mind, but my boss says pre-cum can actually get a chick pregnant too.
People mentioned that here too.
Here's my thoughts on the matter... If you're not banging some scenester / squatter / major drug chick or otherwise known harlot I wouldn't be worried too much about the STD thing. It's pretty easy to detect whether you're leading a lifestyle where you're likely to get an STD and a part of that lifestyle is having promiscous unprotected sex with risky partners.
Still, be cautious... What a person presents to you is not always representative of who they are or were in the past.
Accidentally fathering a child is a risk you take no matter who you're banging and never, I repeat never trust in somebody other than yourself to handle the contraception. If she's on the pill, still use a rubber. Use spermicidal lubricant too. Paying child support to a bitch who you hate for a child you don't even have a meaningful interaction with is a miserable, miserable experience.
If some chick tells you that you knocked her up don't believe it for a second and whatever you do, don't sign any legal documents stating that you are the father (birth certificates, etc) without a paternity test. Once you sign that document you are financially responsible for that child even if it is proven you are not actually the father.
In some states a woman can list you as the father of her child (unbeknownst to you) and you will have 30 days (for example) to dispute it. Since you didn't know about it the time to dispute runs out and now you can be sued for support and will have to pay no matter what, even if DNA evidence shows conclusively that you are not the father.
So, with that knowledge how well do you think, "Well, she TOLD me she was on the pill" would hold up in court?
Seriously, make sure you don't go knocking up any bitches cause you'll be paying through the nose for a long time my friend. The state can take up to half of your income and believe me, they will.
Edited Wed Jan 14 2009, 04:00pm
Always wear a condom no matter WHAT birth control she's on. It's the only barrier between you and a disease. And she doesn't have to be a slut to have one. I know a girl who got herpes the night she lost her virginity. So, BE CAREFUL, it's not just ensuring YOUR safety, but it's respecting hers. Birth control isn't 100%, neither is condoms but together they're reliable. You don't want to have a child with someone you don't want to be tied to for life. Because whether or not you're in a RELATIONSHIP with her for life, you'll have the child to bind you to her for life.
Actually I was just thinking of what happened in my own experience. I have a son sleeping behind me even though I have a KNOWN fertility issue, was on birth control pills, used condoms and all that good jazz. And if sperm can get across all that a disease can as well.
krapsna wrote ... Paying child support to a bitch who you hate for a child you don't even have a meaningful interaction with is a miserable, miserable experience.
That's a bit drastic, but it's also been propsed by others in exasperation as the safest response to the current family court attitude.
Edited Thu Jan 15 2009, 01:08pm
oh and I'm not gonna lie. If a guy is grossed out by menstruation I find this nuance annoying and secretly look down on him for not being understanding and experimental. Secretly? I mean openly.
