Let me tell you something, I'm a nice fucking guy. One of the nicest. I think I'm also pretty goddamn attractive, and I'm also very intelligent and funny. I deserve to have a girlfriend who can go on a 6-week internship without fucking someone else because I'm a fucking catch, let me tell you. But life can't be that easy, can it? It's not easy or fair or fun or nice. I don't deserve to be made to feel like shit, especially not like this. Goddamn it. First girl I ever fall in love with and this happens. Motherfucker motherfucker motherfucker.
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Bah Seskel... that is a torture like no other
Maybe you are a little too nice... And Foe makes a shitty point, as it is you who will not feel much better after taking your frustration/anger/emptiness out on some unsuspecting female or two.
Just be thankful this happened when it did, and not much later on in the game. She's obviously a skank without much self-control
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Oh my god. I can't believe she did that. And you're right about everything you said:
wrote ... 'm a nice fucking guy. One of the nicest. I think I'm also pretty goddamn attractive, and I'm also very intelligent and funny. I deserve to have a girlfriend who can go on a 6-week internship without fucking someone else because I'm a fucking catch, let me tell you. But life can't be that easy, can it? It's not easy or fair or fun or nice. I don't deserve to be made to feel like shit, especially not like this
And Foe makes a shitty point, as it is you who will not feel much better after taking your frustration/anger/emptiness out on some unsuspecting female or two.
yeah, like I was serious. GG dad
It's called humor, because dwelling on it isn't going to help either. The best thing you can possibly do is move on as quickly as possible. That might not be easy to do, and it gets harder the longer you are in the relationship. The more a person knows about you, things that you wouldn't tell anyone else, or things you wouldn't have done with anyone else. The more it would feel like being stabbed in the back. He's actually lucky it happened now, and not after 20 years and 2 kids. It just means she wasn't the girl for him, and she didn't deserve him, and she isn't worth his time to dwell on it.
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If he loves(d) her like he says he did, he should take some time. Jumping back in quickly does not allow time for healing yer dented psyche. One might be doomed repeat it, without some reflection on things.
Your'e right though, Fop, humor can help. Be more obvious with it maybe, so we can follow along at home.
but yeah, i'm not that callous....... then again I've not posted here in ages, and not many know me. When I'm serious I sound pissed (even when I'm not) and sometimes my jokes are rough.
But this thread isn't about me! *gives seskel a man hug*
She's not a bad person. It would make everything easier if I could believe she was a skank or a slut, but I know she's not. I wish I could hate her now but I can't. She was crying her eyes out just telling me. (But I'm not an idiot. It's over, of course.) It will definitely take time to get over it, I don't think I'll be dating for a while. I still love her.
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of course you do. That's not something you can turn off with a switch. It makes everything harder when you're not mad (not in the "I want to kill you" sense). I guess that's what happens when you love them.
My offer to come to LI for school still stands. We have have some stellar schools.
I am very angry, but I'm really trying not to act out of that because I don't want to say anything I'll regret. The relationship is over; that's all the damage that needs to be done. I'm going to see her next Wednesday, the night she gets back, to return her stuff that I still have and because despite this, as stupid as it is, I can't wait to see her. I don't want to yell or be cruel at her. It's my last chance to tell her I love her and that's what I'll do.
